Shannon Bradley-Colleary | Love & Sex - Shannon Bradley-Colleary

Love & Sex

When You’re Addicted to a Person, Embrace THIS to Break Free!

What Follows Is a Counter-Intuitive Approach to Stop Being Addicted to a Person Who Makes You Miserable I used to get miffed when “nice guys” who wanted to date me bitterly cried, “All women just want to date Bad Boys!”

In Love, You Might Not Always Get What You Want; But Here’s a Quick Hack to Get What You Need …

When we’re in “LOVE” with someone who consistently breaks our hearts … … and we stop to think about what WE need to be happy, it usually includes our LOVE OBJECT changing. If he would just FILL IN THE BLANK I would

Does Amy Schumer Need Sex Rehab? And Are You Having Sex for the Right Reasons?

Ladies, I recently read Amy Schumer’s hilarious memoir, The Girl With the Lower Back Tattoo, which made me realize that when it comes to bad relationships we can’t just blame our childhoods. There are also … Hidden Cultural Beliefs that mess up our

The Power of Touch in Marriage: 3 Reasons You Need to Reach Out!

Excerpt: “Tactile sensitivity plays a very important role in interpersonal communication, sexuality, and helps create bonds between people. We already know how important and vital sexual intimacy is to relationships. But we underestimate how much touching we need to survive; both within relationships and as independent individuals.” Keep reading …

10 Myths About Sex and Romance

(Excerpt) #6 The goal in lovemaking should be mutual orgasm. This is another myth spread by movies, where all couples seem to experience the height of pleasure at precisely the same time (and so very quickly!). Couples who believe this myth are putting an unnecessary amount of pressure on themselves when in the bedroom.

Interpret My Dream: How it Changed My Life Forever

Excerpt: “Touching her is the worst part. She’s still warm. Her limp body is a rebuke as I press it to my chest, trying to comfort and revive her. A bottle of milk appears. I try to feed the kitten as my heart beats frantically in time with the words in my head, please don’t die, please don’t die, please don’t die.” Keep reading

My Holiday Gift to You? No More Narcissists!

Hello my Beauties — I’ve been cheating on this site with my relationship site at shannoncolleary.com — I’m hoping my life-coaching business for women who want out of toxic relationships to find Real Love will become a micro-business that supports my writing habit. But for those of you in the dating theater on Tinder, and ComeDoMeUnderABushel .com, here are my latest — some illuminating pieces on how to avoid the Asshats and find Real Love. xoxo S

4 Amazing Benefits of Midlife Sex

“We’ve both gained a life ring around our middles; Eric’s lost his gorgeous hair and I’ve discovered hair in my nose. Rosacea’s turned my face radish red, and both of our necks are heading south! I do not need Eric looking at my flapping neck from Woman-On-Top at nine in the morning, which is the only time we can have sex because our kids with their bionic hearing are finally at school!” Read On …

6 KickAss Tools for Getting What You Want in Your Love Life!

A lot of things have been going on at my relationship website shannoncolleary.com. So if you’re one of my readers who struggles in your love relationship — or even if you simply want to be get better at having a

The #1 Killer of Married Sex

Excerpt: “You can’t just run off to Sri Lanka, spending your days filming a documentary on the knitwear sweat factories while visiting opium dens in the evening.” Keep Reading …

Blown Sideways: The Day I Left Jack Kerouac

Excerpt: “I’d also leave my aged Beauty Rest mattress.

A forensics team would find remnants of the married actor who showed up to rehearse a scene from “Two For the See-Saw” going commando under his sweats and smelling faintly of citrus that reminded me of the orange trees in my childhood backyard…” Read More

5 Wisdom Bites on How to Handle Difficult People

While going through my divorce, my therapist said to me “if he was like this while you were married, why do you expect him to be different now?” The realization really jarred me: it was true. Stop wishing the asshat was different. Don’t expect a change in behavior. Asshats don’t suddenly become aware of their asshat status and reform their ways. Keep Reading …

Blog Break: I’m Writing a Book (Beware Asshats)

Excerpt: “The reason a woman over 50 posts photos of herself in lingerie on social media and her blog is that she’s fishing for compliments. She wants you to write stuff like, ‘You are one hot mama!’ or ‘The girls looks great!’ (‘the girls’ in thisShannon Bathroom 2 instance = boobs). Or, ‘How can you write so well when you look so good?’ (Which will offend some women, because the question presupposes that good female writers are unattractive, but it will not offend me.)” Keep Reading …

Gentlemen, Don’t do “THIS” When it Comes to Women …

Excerpt: “I’m a woman, not a fellow man in the dating war theater, down in the trenches under heavy artillery fire with my penis-packing compadres. And sometimes women are considered man-hating harridans when they scold men for Asshattery. But it’s a chance I’ll have to take! Because I am coining Rule #2 to Avoid Becoming a Male Asshat …” Keep Reading:

You’re Never Too Old to Learn New Sex Tricks: The Stranger Game

Excerpt: “Henry and I had been married for 10 years when I made him meet me for a blind date. I’d been nursing an inexplicable obsession with the singer Gavin DeGraw and felt I ought to refocus my energy on real-life sex before I ran off on Gavin’s tour bus to serve Lime Rickey’s in a rhinestone thong.” Keep Reading …

5 New Asshat Recovery Articles on my Relationship Site. (Inc. Family-of-Origin Dysfunction)

I have five new articles on my relationship website. They cover kicking butt for your inner child, vanquishing unwarranted shame, pro-active tasks to figure out what to do with family-of-origin dysfunction and addiction to Asshattery. Click for links!

6 Things She Was Thinking During Sex, What He did to Make it Stop!

Excerpt: “I’m attempting a technique called The Pepper Grinder on my husband. It’s 9 a.m. on Monday morning, which is one of the few times we can have sex because our children are not in the house, but it really eats into my work time, man. This is what is in my head as I try to complete this sexual task:” Keep Reading …

Red Flags #7 and #8 That you Might Be Dating an Asshat. (& What to do About it)

Excerpt: “Red Flag #7: He Makes You Feel Bad About Your Appearance and Your Personality. Slowly but surely toxic people work to undermine your confidence.They criticize the way you look, the way you talk, the way you eat, the way you do pretty much everything. They’ll even criticize you for reacting negatively to their outrageous, emotionally abusive behavior. My client Beatrice (not her real name) was living with her boyfriend of three years, Matthew.” Keep Reading …

The Mothership Has Landed. My Byline in October’s “O” Oprah Magazine

I have my first byline in “O” Oprah Magazine. I’m not at liberty to reprint my story here. I’m stuck in Oprah handcuffs for Time and all Eternity. And feel lucky that I am. But I’d be so happy if you’d pick up this month’s issue for a gander. Here’s a peek.

How to be Handy in Bed (NSFW!)

Excerpt: “I figured, despite a mild case of carpel tunnel and harbingers of arthritis in the third knuckle of my ring finger, that my hands could pinch-hit for my euphemistically titled Downtown Dining and Entertainment District.” Keep Reading!

Red Flags #5 and #6 That You’re Dating an Asshat!

My online #AsshatRecovery tutorial is up and running on my relationship site and I’m now taking clients who would like to ditch their Asshat and find real love. Pop over and have a look.

How to Seduce Your Wife

Excerpt: “What could my Mother’s Day gift be? A Spanx trousseau which would make me feel like a slatternly bovine and render me petulant and affronted so I could lambast my husband with the misplaced anger I feel about everything else in my life. (Not getting published in Jezebel for starters. Don’t they know I invented Jezebel?!)” Read More.

Best Dating, Sex, Love & Life Advice Around The Web This Week

Excerpt: Dr. Gary Penn says this about dating, “Say what you want. It’s not desperate to tell a date what you want from life. If a man or woman freaks out because you’re looking for commitment, marriage, a family, that’s good information to have.”

Just One a Day is All You Get! aka Bossy Wives

10 Types of Women Men Won’t Marry: Miss “I Want To Change You”: This woman is lurking everywhere. She is the type of woman many men are the most leery of. (Of course, there are some men who love this woman because of their own insecurities.) She claims that she loves her guy just the way he is, but little by little, she chips away at just about everything about him. First, it’s his wardrobe, then it’s his taste in music. However, when she gets to his friends and his hobbies, she is usually kicked to the curb. (Keep Reading…)

Red Flag #4 – Are You Dating An Asshat?

Excerpt: “You’re beginning to accept less and less in the relationship, because your self-esteem takes a hit every time you take him back hoping for better treatment. You’re most likely addicted to the Asshat at this juncture. And when we’re addicted to something or someone and we use again, we essentially betray ourselves.” Keep Reading …

1 2 3 … 7

Love & Sex

Loading, Please Wait!