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When You’re Addicted to a Person, Embrace THIS to Break Free!

What Follows Is a Counter-Intuitive Approach to Stop Being Addicted to a Person Who Makes You Miserable I used to get miffed when “nice guys” who wanted to date me bitterly cried, “All women just want to date Bad Boys!”

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In Love, You Might Not Always Get What You Want

But Here’s a Quick Hack to Get What You Need … When we’re in “LOVE” with someone who consistently breaks our hearts and we stop to think about what WE need to be happy, it usually includes our LOVE OBJECT

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Does Amy Schumer Need Sex Rehab? Are You Having Sex for the Right Reasons?

Ladies, I recently read Amy Schumer’s hilarious memoir, The Girl With the Lower Back Tattoo, which made me realize that when it comes to bad relationships we can’t just blame our childhoods. There are also … Hidden Cultural Beliefs that mess up our

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10 Myths About Sex and Romance

#6 The goal in lovemaking should be mutual orgasm. This is another myth spread by movies, where all couples seem to experience the height of pleasure at precisely the same time …

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Interpret My Dream: How it Changed My Life Forever

Excerpt: “Touching her is the worst part. She’s still warm. Her limp body is a rebuke as I press it to my chest, trying to comfort and revive her. A bottle of milk appears. I try to feed the kitten as my heart beats frantically in time with the words in my head, please don’t die, please don’t die, please don’t die.” Keep reading

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Benefits of Midlife Sex

“We’ve both gained a life ring around our middles; Eric’s lost his gorgeous hair and I’ve discovered hair in my nose …

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The #1 Killer of Married Sex

“You can’t just run off to Sri Lanka, spending your days filming a documentary on the knitwear sweat factories while visiting opium dens in the evening.”

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Blown Sideways: The Day I Left Jack Kerouac

“I’d also leave my aged Beauty Rest mattress. A forensics team would find remnants of the married actor who showed up to rehearse a scene from “Two For the See-Saw” going commando under his sweats …

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5 Steps to Handling Difficult People

While going through my divorce, my therapist said to me “if he was like this while you were married, why do you expect him to be different now?” …

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Blog Break: I’m Writing a Book (Beware Asshats)

“The reason a woman over 50 posts photos of herself in lingerie on social media and her blog is that she’s fishing for compliments …

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You’re Never Too Old to Learn New Sex Tricks

“Henry and I had been married for 10 years when I made him meet me for a blind date …

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The Mothership Has Landed.

I have my first byline in “O” Oprah Magazine. Here’s a peek.

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How to be Handy in Bed (NSFW!)

“I figured, despite a mild case of carpel tunnel, that my hands could pinch-hit for my euphemistically titled Downtown Dining and Entertainment District.”

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How to Seduce Your Wife

“What could my Mother’s Day gift be? A Spanx trousseau which would make me feel like a slatternly bovine, and render me affronted, so I could lambast my husband with the misplaced anger I feel about everything else in my life.

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Night Three: 101 Nights of Great Sex

My breasts were really quite put out. I’d already extorted six months of breast-feeding out of them back in 2005 …

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He Had a Traumatic Car Accident and I Had to Grow Up

“As I sat by the broken boy’s hospital bed, trying not to flinch away from the constellation of scars on his lips, cheeks and forehead I knew it would look bad if I slipped away now …

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I Was Used by a Catfish!

What if there are hundreds of wealthy sugar daddies dying to throw their money at me so I can finally get front row tickets to RiverDance and they’ll pay anything for Michael Flatley to come out of retirement just for me?

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What Women Like In Bed

“A woman demanding (however subtly) to be dominated and controlled can have all this.” …

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2 Secret Things Women Want in Bed

As one woman put it: “I am tired of being that precious lady in the bedroom. I’m tired of ‘making love’ and doing things gently all the time.

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Tales From an Inadvertent Matchmaker

One night at the Peninsula I noted two gentlemen eyeing Glenna and me from a neighboring table.

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Shannon’s Relationship Site is Live

Here’s my first “Ask Shannon” video and links to my new site’s homepage and the three more “Ask Shannons.”

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Sizzle Video for our Shift For Love Seminar & My New Relationship Site is Live!

Hello TWFKAB readers. You may have noticed I’ve been writing a lot about relationships lately, which isn’t the reason most of you come here. (You come for the free pizza and peyote tabs) But it’s also the only reason a

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A Beautiful Brunette was After my Man, so I Pulled a George Costanza!

He was going to see Margot. A tall, slender, yet buxom drink of Brunette and my worst nightmare.

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How Do Sex and Nascar Racing Add up to a Healthy Marriage?

If I were to think of our sex life as a Nascar Race, then there are some months that we go around the track quite a bit …

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One Task: How to Build Self-Esteem

Back in my Asshat days, I was incredibly annoying. And I wasn’t even the Asshat.

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