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11 Actionable Tasks to Leave an Abusive Relationship

Addiction to a person is no different than addiction to a substance. All of the same symptoms can take hold …

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Caught In The Act and Traumatized!

Midnight. Exhausted as we were, we were not going down (so to speak) without a fight. We’d just begun certain preliminary gestures toward one another. Clothes were shucked …

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The One Thing Needed to Leave an Abusive Relationship

One of my rock bottoms was discovering my boyfriend romancing another woman at 2 a.m. in his apartment …

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Slippery When Wet!

I remember the moment as if it were yesterday. I’d gone into my college boyfriend’s parents’ bedroom in search of Kleenex when I noticed something on their night table that embarrassed me …

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Are You in a CoDependent Relationship? 7 Questions.

1. You are unable to find satisfaction in your life outside of a specific person.

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5 Reasons to Stop Seeing the Asshat as a Human Being

If you see an Asshat as a human being you’ll begin to miss the specific things you love about him, instead of focusing on the overall crappy way he makes you feel.

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How to get out of an Abusive Relationship

He wouldn’t talk to me or even look at me, all he did was play pool.

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5 Reasons Using Sex to Audition for Wife Won’t Work

Here’s why using sex to audition for wife will fail every time …

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Stop Psychoanalyzing the Abuser, 5 Reasons You Can’t Change Him.

Are you an Asshat? Because I can fix you. If you’re a car, then I’m a mechanic. If you’re a computer, then I’m the Geek Squad. If you’re a porn star, then I’m the fluffer.

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How Sex With a Pirate Ruined me Forever!

My first lover was Brandon Birmingham, captain of The Audacious, a merchant ship set for the Orient.
He’d mistaken me for a prostitute and had his way with me before he knew the truth…

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Do You Worry the Asshat Will Perish Without You?

Suddenly we put on our white hat, brandish our battle saber and charge in on our noble steed to rescue the Asshats them from their very own Asshattery, abandoning ourselves in the process!

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What the Asshats Say to Make You Stay!

In making me feel smaller, The Greek God ensured that I’d never leave because, considering all of my flaws, I believed I was lucky to get him and should just put up with the times he treated me poorly.

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Empty Nest = Lame Sex?

It was still summer and the cock blockers were gone. I’d driven them at breakneck speed up to my mom’s in Santa Barbara. It was the first time they’d be away from home and we could have sex in every room of the house.

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When an Asshat tells you he’s an Asshat, Believe Him

Here’s the funny thing about people. They tell you who they are. And they often tell you right away. Recently, I worked with an old friend of mine on a writing project. We’d known each other many years, and I

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When I Tried to Kill my Ex With a No. 2 Pencil

He walked in the door of our house at 1 a.m., as if it were only 6 p.m. and he didn’t reek of Other Women. I sat on the couch pretending to watch the Late, Late, Late Show; as if

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Video One: The Asshat Recovery Program

I’m excited about getting this series off the ground. Have a look at the video and see if your love life has the signs of an abusive relationship. Because I’ve been there, baby, and I can help! Also, you get to watch me sweating like Albert Brooks in Broadcast News.

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14 Reasons You Attract Asshats

When it comes to dating, do you keep choosing Asshats over and over and over again? I was an Asshat-magnet, right up until my womb entered its geriatric phase. Then I got serious and stalked Henry, who I like to

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Are You Turning the Asshat’s Bread Crumbs Into a Rustic Loaf?

Ahh, that perennial relationship black hole of Calcutta, the Asshat. They don’t call when they say they will. They don’t show up when expected. They brood at social gatherings with friends and family. You’re fairly certain they’re cheating on you

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How Married Sex Changed When I Cheated Death

Look at That Handsome Face I’m not sure what moon my cycle is in, or which lunar orbit is pivoting across the satellite of my luminescent chakras and third eye, but I’m feeling sentimental about my man. Henry turned 54

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You Won’t Believe What Experts Learned About People Who Like Kinky Sex!

A new study by the Journal of Sexual Medicine surveyed 902 people who practice kinky sex. This means BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism) Then they interviewed 432 people who practice “vanilla sex” (no kink involved). They discovered the BDSM

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6 Essential Dating Tips for Dummies

6 Ways Dating is Like Hiking  1. First, you must be sure you have the right foot equipment for the climb. Are you going to wear flip-flops to ascend Killamanjaro? I think not. You’ve got to be prepared for the rigors

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How to Have a Threesome in Vietnam!

The room was dark and quiet and I could hear the familiar sound of sleeping bodies around me. But there was another noise as well. In the bunk above me. Oh God, please no. The wet fluid sound of movement.

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5 Foods That Improve Sex Drive

Guess what? Food is NOT the enemy! That is, unless you’re consuming Twinkies, pork rinds and Funyons on a regular basis. But what a relief to discover that some of my gustatory predilections are going to throttle my sexual ennui

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Husbands and Wives

Are Henry and I the next Grey Gardens? The latest in my Husbands and Wives Series. Lately, Henry’s been cooking mushy, formless, tasteless chicken. “Can you please add spices to the chicken?” I query. “Like, what kind of spices do

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Risky Sex = Hot Sex!

Have you ever had sex in a shark tank? Well you should! A recent article on Health.com touted, “Getting Risky” as one of the best ways to have phantasmagorical orgasms . The article suggested hiking (and fornicating) in precipitous climes

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