My BlogHer 2013 Voices Of The Year “Sex” Talk Is Here (Video)
My BlogHer 2013 Voices of The Year keynote speech titled, “What I Know About Sex now that I’m in my 40s” is here.
Category: Love & Sex
When Your Spouse Asks You To Take A Lover
Have you ever wondered what you would do if your spouse was disabled by an illness or injury and was no longer able to have
What I Know About Sex Now That I’m In My 40s at BlogHer 2013
In the blogging world, I had a pinnacle experience tonight. I was ushered onstage by Queen Latifah as one of 12 bloggers to read
Marital Infidelity: A Marriage Surviving It
Sometimes Things Break Open to Become Better My friend Cleo met her husband Eric twenty-five years ago when she moved into her parents’ retirement home
What Happened When Henry And I Dabbled In The Sexy BDSM Underworld
This post contains graphic sexual content which might convince you to never have sex again: Before we had kids, Henry and I decided to walk
Why My Wedding Anniversary Means Nothing To Me
Henry and I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. We tell each other not to get each other gifts for our birthdays. We had our 12th wedding
Sexual Dissatisfaction: When Your Spouse Is No Longer Attractive To You
Recently a reader contacted me regarding my Married Sex series to tell me her story in the hopes of getting some answers. We’ll call my
When Hot Couples Have Lame Sex
Sometimes It’s Not as Hot as We Think I first met Svetlana and her husband Magnus at my friend Caprice’s Family Fourth of July pool
How Crushing on Gavin DeGraw Almost Got Me Killed
I Adore Gavin DeGraw Is he handsome? I’ll punch you if you say no! Does he sport a six pack? I hope so. Is he
I May Have to Gag My Husband
Henry is outside as I type this, reading the first draft of a book I’m writing. It was quiet out there when I entered. His
Is Bad Sex A Good Reason to Divorce?
My friend Bethany kept falling in lust with men at her office. This would’ve been fine, except that she was in a seventeen-year marriage with
How Many Pre-Marital Lovers Is Too Many?
She Had Vastly More Lovers Than Him My friend Maggie (who gave me permission to write this) is a volunteer at her children’s elementary school
Dissection of the Ménage à Trois
1988 was a banner year for me. I was separately invited by two male college friends to engage in a ménage à trois with them and
The Man You Want May Already Be In Your Bed
Friday night our daughters Bridget and Clare both had sleepovers elsewhere. They were gone by 5:30 p.m. and were not to return until the following
A Cheating Boyfriend Drove Me To God
And that’s when I see Her. She’s sitting where I’ve often slept, on Mr. C’s futon. She’s junkie-thin wearing a turquoise mid-riff top exposing a silver belly ring above skinny jeans.
An Old Flame And The Catcher In The Rye aka When I was the Asshat
I watched as he peered about looking for me and I saw the familiar conscientious expression on his face. Worried he was a little too late. And I realized in that moment that I still loved him.
What I Wish I’d Known Before My Wedding! (Photos)
I managed to convince Henry to marry me on May 27th, 2001. It only took me five years to get him to do it. Granted
Should Marriage and Pornography Get In Bed Together?
All people in this post are amalgams of people I know, so if you think this is about you … it probably is. My dear
What I Know About Sex, Now That I’m In My 40s
The Huffington Post Women’s editor asked me to write this story, so she is entirely responsible for any lasting psychic trauma you may sustain after
4 Sure Signs You’re in Peri menopause
Here is how I know I’m in peri menopause: 1. I’m Smoking Hot. Not in the good way. I’ll be minding my own business hanging
Abstinence Got Me Pregnant
“Are there any side effects to going off the pill,” I asked Dr. Frankenweiller, my ob-gyn. “Yes,” he replied, “Pregnancy.” And he was right. One
May 23rd is National Vixen Day
I’ve caved in and am reading the Fifty Shades of Grey series. Henry has had to start taking vitamins to keep up with me.
Fifty Shades of Wife Dominatrix
“I want you to dominate me!” I announce to Henry. “Wha…?” Henry’s asleep. It’s midnight on Sunday. I’ve flipped on the light switch. He blinks
Where’s the Male Stripper?
Here Come the Pecs My friend Glinda turns forty mumble mumble mumble this month. I went to a morning surprise birthday party for her
Promiscuity Changed My Life
I want to share one of my Life-Changing Moments inspired by: THE MOMENT: Wild, Poignant, Life-Changing Stories from 125 Writers and Artists Famous & Obscure In
