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When You’re Addicted to a Person, Embrace THIS to Break Free!

What Follows Is a Counter-Intuitive Approach to Stop Being Addicted to a Person Who Makes You Miserable I used to get miffed when “nice guys” who wanted to date me bitterly cried, “All women just want to date Bad Boys!”

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In Love, You Might Not Always Get What You Want

But Here’s a Quick Hack to Get What You Need … When we’re in “LOVE” with someone who consistently breaks our hearts and we stop to think about what WE need to be happy, it usually includes our LOVE OBJECT

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Does Amy Schumer Need Sex Rehab? Are You Having Sex for the Right Reasons?

Ladies, I recently read Amy Schumer’s hilarious memoir, The Girl With the Lower Back Tattoo, which made me realize that when it comes to bad relationships we can’t just blame our childhoods. There are also … Hidden Cultural Beliefs that mess up our

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Interpret My Dream: How it Changed My Life Forever

Excerpt: “Touching her is the worst part. She’s still warm. Her limp body is a rebuke as I press it to my chest, trying to comfort and revive her. A bottle of milk appears. I try to feed the kitten as my heart beats frantically in time with the words in my head, please don’t die, please don’t die, please don’t die.” Keep reading

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5 Steps to Handling Difficult People

While going through my divorce, my therapist said to me “if he was like this while you were married, why do you expect him to be different now?” …

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Shannon’s Relationship Site is Live

Here’s my first “Ask Shannon” video and links to my new site’s homepage and the three more “Ask Shannons.”

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Sizzle Video for our Shift For Love Seminar & My New Relationship Site is Live!

Hello TWFKAB readers. You may have noticed I’ve been writing a lot about relationships lately, which isn’t the reason most of you come here. (You come for the free pizza and peyote tabs) But it’s also the only reason a

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A Beautiful Brunette was After my Man, so I Pulled a George Costanza!

He was going to see Margot. A tall, slender, yet buxom drink of Brunette and my worst nightmare.

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One Task: How to Build Self-Esteem

Back in my Asshat days, I was incredibly annoying. And I wasn’t even the Asshat.

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11 Actionable Tasks to Leave an Abusive Relationship

Addiction to a person is no different than addiction to a substance. All of the same symptoms can take hold …

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The One Thing Needed to Leave an Abusive Relationship

One of my rock bottoms was discovering my boyfriend romancing another woman at 2 a.m. in his apartment …

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Are You in a CoDependent Relationship? 7 Questions.

1. You are unable to find satisfaction in your life outside of a specific person.

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5 Reasons to Stop Seeing the Asshat as a Human Being

If you see an Asshat as a human being you’ll begin to miss the specific things you love about him, instead of focusing on the overall crappy way he makes you feel.

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How to get out of an Abusive Relationship

He wouldn’t talk to me or even look at me, all he did was play pool.

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5 Reasons Using Sex to Audition for Wife Won’t Work

Here’s why using sex to audition for wife will fail every time …

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Stop Psychoanalyzing the Abuser, 5 Reasons You Can’t Change Him.

Are you an Asshat? Because I can fix you. If you’re a car, then I’m a mechanic. If you’re a computer, then I’m the Geek Squad. If you’re a porn star, then I’m the fluffer.

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Do You Worry the Asshat Will Perish Without You?

Suddenly we put on our white hat, brandish our battle saber and charge in on our noble steed to rescue the Asshats them from their very own Asshattery, abandoning ourselves in the process!

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What the Asshats Say to Make You Stay!

In making me feel smaller, The Greek God ensured that I’d never leave because, considering all of my flaws, I believed I was lucky to get him and should just put up with the times he treated me poorly.

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When an Asshat tells you he’s an Asshat, Believe Him

Here’s the funny thing about people. They tell you who they are. And they often tell you right away. Recently, I worked with an old friend of mine on a writing project. We’d known each other many years, and I

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When I Tried to Kill my Ex With a No. 2 Pencil

He walked in the door of our house at 1 a.m., as if it were only 6 p.m. and he didn’t reek of Other Women. I sat on the couch pretending to watch the Late, Late, Late Show; as if

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Video One: The Asshat Recovery Program

I’m excited about getting this series off the ground. Have a look at the video and see if your love life has the signs of an abusive relationship. Because I’ve been there, baby, and I can help! Also, you get to watch me sweating like Albert Brooks in Broadcast News.

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14 Reasons You Attract Asshats

When it comes to dating, do you keep choosing Asshats over and over and over again? I was an Asshat-magnet, right up until my womb entered its geriatric phase. Then I got serious and stalked Henry, who I like to

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Are You Turning the Asshat’s Bread Crumbs Into a Rustic Loaf?

Ahh, that perennial relationship black hole of Calcutta, the Asshat. They don’t call when they say they will. They don’t show up when expected. They brood at social gatherings with friends and family. You’re fairly certain they’re cheating on you

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6 Essential Dating Tips for Dummies

6 Ways Dating is Like Hiking  1. First, you must be sure you have the right foot equipment for the climb. Are you going to wear flip-flops to ascend Killamanjaro? I think not. You’ve got to be prepared for the rigors

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10 Signs You’re Dating an Asshat, 5 Tips to Avoid Them

Asshats. We’ve all been in love with at least one. Haven’t we? If you haven’t, do me a service and lie. What defines an Asshat? (I’m going to refer to men, but Asshatism crosses all gender lines). My #AsshatCriteria: 1.

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