When Sex Is More Meaningful Than Having The “Big O”
“Henry. Henry, wake up! We have to have sex.” “No, we don’t!” “Yes, we do. Now come on.” “I can’t.” “If the musicians on The
Category: Married Sex
Long Marriage = Adventurous Sex?
I met my friend Mistress Justine for lunch on Friday. That’s not her real name, but it should be. She and her husband, Raoul (also
Don’t Shake Your Man Parts At Me!
Confession: Clare, Henry, Oscar the Handyman and I are sick of each other. Clare’s been home from school with the flu for a week. What
The Death Of Sweetums
It hath come to pass that I am madeth aware, yet again, of a marital sex epiphany. Henry will, from time to ignominious time, refer
The Moustache Debacle
He Had Me at his Handlebar Mustouche The other day a diminutive man who placed second in The World Beard & Moustache Championship (in accordance
The Virgin Marriage
In honor of my little brother turning 40 today I’m reposting his love/life philosophies. The gift that keeps on giving. I love you, sweetheart! My
My BlogHer 2013 Voices Of The Year “Sex” Talk Is Here (Video)
My BlogHer 2013 Voices of The Year keynote speech titled, “What I Know About Sex now that I’m in my 40s” is here.
When Your Spouse Asks You To Take A Lover
Have you ever wondered what you would do if your spouse was disabled by an illness or injury and was no longer able to have
What I Know About Sex Now That I’m In My 40s at BlogHer 2013
In the blogging world, I had a pinnacle experience tonight. I was ushered onstage by Queen Latifah as one of 12 bloggers to read
Marital Infidelity: A Marriage Surviving It
Sometimes Things Break Open to Become Better My friend Cleo met her husband Eric twenty-five years ago when she moved into her parents’ retirement home
What Happened When Henry And I Dabbled In The Sexy BDSM Underworld
This post contains graphic sexual content which might convince you to never have sex again: Before we had kids, Henry and I decided to walk
Why My Wedding Anniversary Means Nothing To Me
Henry and I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. We tell each other not to get each other gifts for our birthdays. We had our 12th wedding
Sexual Dissatisfaction: When Your Spouse Is No Longer Attractive To You
Recently a reader contacted me regarding my Married Sex series to tell me her story in the hopes of getting some answers. We’ll call my
How Crushing on Gavin DeGraw Almost Got Me Killed
I Adore Gavin DeGraw Is he handsome? I’ll punch you if you say no! Does he sport a six pack? I hope so. Is he
Is Bad Sex A Good Reason to Divorce?
My friend Bethany kept falling in lust with men at her office. This would’ve been fine, except that she was in a seventeen-year marriage with
How Many Pre-Marital Lovers Is Too Many?
She Had Vastly More Lovers Than Him My friend Maggie (who gave me permission to write this) is a volunteer at her children’s elementary school
Dissection of the Ménage à Trois
1988 was a banner year for me. I was separately invited by two male college friends to engage in a ménage à trois with them and
The Man You Want May Already Be In Your Bed
Friday night our daughters Bridget and Clare both had sleepovers elsewhere. They were gone by 5:30 p.m. and were not to return until the following
Should Marriage and Pornography Get In Bed Together?
All people in this post are amalgams of people I know, so if you think this is about you … it probably is. My dear
Fifty Shades of Wife Dominatrix
“I want you to dominate me!” I announce to Henry. “Wha…?” Henry’s asleep. It’s midnight on Sunday. I’ve flipped on the light switch. He blinks
Passion Parties Make You Feel Unsexy
Questions You’ll be asked at Passion Parties Have you done it in an elevator? Yes. Have you done it in an airplane? Of course.
Crystal the Porn Star and Other Ignominies
“I’ve looked on many women with lust. I’ve committed adultery in my heart many times. God knows I will do this and forgives me.” —
Gavin DeGraw Almost Got Me Killed!
I blame it all on AOL. It happened a month ago to the day. I logged on to AOL to check my email and got
My Unnatural Fixation With Gavin DeGraw
I’m obsessed with Gavin DeGraw. I had no idea who Gavin DeGraw was until he got beaten up in New York and my morbid curiosity
I Know It’s Not Modern, But I’m In Love With My Husband
Henry (not his real name, his real name’s … Britannicus Maximus) — — drove up to Santa Barbara from our home in L.A. today to
