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A New Study on how to Heal Body Image Issues (The Kissing Video)

Okay, just stop judging your body.

Have you stopped? Good. Now, how does your body feel?

Mine feels pleasantly tired after working out hard in Pop Physique.

My hands are a little sticky and sweaty on the keyboard.

My tummy is full to the point of perfection with steel-cut oatmeal, dried cranberries, slivered almonds and cafe latte with brown sugar.

I’m stretching now, my tight shoulder releasing, the small of my back in my hands as I knead.

What I’m noticing. My body likes the attention.

In fact, my body is thrilled I’ve finally stepped out of my head and said hello.

She would like me to do this regularly. These are things my body likes:
  • To walk in nature.
  • To swim in the ocean.
  • To stretch in the morning.
  • To eat really good, healthy food.
  • To drink red wine.
  • To sniff my daughters’ soft, round, sun-kissed cheeks.
  • To kiss my husband in the shower.
  • To get a massage.
  • To get her nails and toenails done.
  • To look at the sky through the branches and leaves of a tree.
  • To laugh really hard.
  • To sleep.

In her PsychCentral blog post titled, Body Image Booster: Focus On Feelings, Margarita Tartakovsky, MS says that by focusing on how we want our bodies to feel, rather than looking in the mirror at our image, we can begin to heal from body image issues.

Tartakovsky wants her body to feel, “Invigorated, bursting with brisk energy, joyful and alive.”

I actually want to steal her adjectives. Here are a few of the ways I’d like my body to feel:

  • Relaxed
  • Integrated with my mind
  • Sensual
  • Loved
  • Tingling with happy anticipation
  • Embraced

Try writing down the adjectives you’d like your body to feel. You can do it here in comments, then figure out what you can do to make it feel that way.

Happy Tuesday, you glorious men and women. Love your bodies right now, just as they are. Because, why not? It feels good. Mwah!

Oh, and just for fun, here’s a video of people kissing after meeting for the first time. Sweet, sexy film.


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  1. Bob Franklin
    Bob Franklin 11 March, 2014, 11:24

    Why do you keep talking about loving your body and then posting pics covered by leaves and stuff? We want to see those bodies in all their glory!

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    • Shannon
      Shannon Author 11 March, 2014, 11:32

      Hi Bob — you crack me up! I’m already labeled a porn site by various networks so I have to cover various parts to keep Hugh Hefner from showing up at my door. xo

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  2. Sharona Zee
    Sharona Zee 11 March, 2014, 12:41

    My body loves the smile on my face after watching the First Kiss film (and also after getting one of my own)

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  3. Bob Franklin
    Bob Franklin 11 March, 2014, 12:49

    Labeled as a porn site? I’ve seen more nudity in PG-13 movies.

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  4. DeanaCal
    DeanaCal 13 March, 2014, 12:05

    Watching that video makes me want to have a first kiss again. Of course, I love my hubby to pieces but it just dawned on me that I will never have another first kiss. On the bright side though, I will never again have to suffer through another bad first date!

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    • Shannon
      Shannon Author 13 March, 2014, 22:46

      Hey Deana — first kisses are magic. But I will simply have to sit back and watch. Which I guess actually means I’m lucky.

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