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You Won’t Believe What Experts Learned About People Who Like Kinky Sex!

kinky sexA new study by the Journal of Sexual Medicine surveyed 902 people who practice kinky sex.

This means BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism)

Then they interviewed 432 people who practice “vanilla sex” (no kink involved).

They discovered the BDSM group scored higher on indicators of mental health!

Which made me wonder if my husband, Henry, and I should revisit the dungeon of Mike Boner; the man with a tiny, flaccid male member, who hosted the one and only BDSM party we ever attended?

(As anthropologists, of course).

Apparently, Mike Boner may be more mentally healthy than Henry and me.

I was relieved to discover there’s a potential flaw in the study, because Andreas Wismeijer, a psychologist at Nyenrode Business University in the Netherlands, and the lead author on the study, admitted that people practicing BDSM:

“Might have scored better on these surveys because they’ve been forced to be more psychologically aware to live with sexual needs that are beyond the scope of what is often considered socially acceptable to discuss in the mainstream.”

Even so, the study does support the argument for removing BDSM from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) as “paraphilia.”

Paraphilia is considered a mental health condition where the patient’s sexual behavior is considered atypical.

I was startled to discover that as recently as 2012, Homosexuality was considered one of the paraphilias.

Right alongside having sex with animals. It seems the medical community has some catching up to do.

But when it comes to BDSM, there’s no denying E.L. James’s ghastly Fifty Shades of Grey hit a sex nerve in the zeitgeist that may do fetishists more favors with the DSM than any study could possibly achieve.

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So, I leave you with a small snatch of conversation between Henry and me, wherein I try to broaden our sexual repertoire (and also, apparently, our mental health) by trying to get him to dominate me by dominating him.

Which makes perfect sense. 

Henry: Is it okay if I dominate you now?

Me: I want you to dominate me now, but I don’t want you to ask for permission.

Henry: I’m not asking for permission, I am dominating you now.

He attempts to lift me into his steel-hewn arms, with his arthritic fingers. He’s so hot! Whoa!

He carries my left leg, while I hop on my right foot, to the bed and pushes me on it with enough force to leave me breathless, but with a slight pinch in my neck.

As he leans manfully over me I say: Please be gentle, but not too gentle, forceful enough to frighten me, but not so forceful that I have to shower and brush my teeth again.

Henry: I’m going to take you now, on top of this bed in the missionary position quietly so we don’t wake the kids.

Me: You’ve got 15 minutes.

Henry: I’m taking 20.

Wow! Fade to black.


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  1. Carol Cassara
    Carol Cassara 12 August, 2014, 10:05

    Maybe the most fun post of yours I’ve read yet!

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  2. Helene Cohen Bludman
    Helene Cohen Bludman 12 August, 2014, 16:29

    LOL! Hilarious!

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  3. Chris Dean
    Chris Dean 13 August, 2014, 01:12

    You had me rollin’! You should definitely spin the conversation into your own 50 Shades book. Would totally be a best seller.

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    • Shannon
      Shannon Author 13 August, 2014, 08:52

      Thanks Chris Dean — I’ve always wanted to write some truly shitastic erotica!

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  4. Doug Smith
    Doug Smith 15 August, 2014, 20:36

    That was humorous and very enjoyable. I like the reference back to Mike Boner the man with a tiny, flaccid, male member. It was another post that I really enjoyed.

    Over the years I have gotten to know a couple of people who are into BDSM. I have enjoyed trying to understand people with different lifestyles. Not sure I ever will. I think thought that my mental health may have benefited just from the association. Not sure though I am ready for your Mike Boner party though. I will sacrifice a bit of mental health.

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