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She Lost Her SoulMate, You’ll Be Surprised at What Helped her Through her Grief

Yoga helps grieving

Yoga includes a whole new vocabulary of words and phrases.

Judy Freedman is my guest writer today. I love this story about how a passion for yoga lead her out of the grief she suffered when she lost her husband.

Judy writes:

This year, I started training to become a yoga instructor. For fellow yogis – my blog post will remind you of why you practice. For non-yogis – come along for the ride – maybe I’ll entice you to try a class or two.

Why I Love Yoga

I began my yoga practice about seven years ago, shortly after losing my husband. It was a way to physically and mentally focus and relax.

Yoga and mindfulness meditation helped me heal through stages of grief.

According to Yoga Sutras of Patanjali as interpreted by Mukunda Stiles, “Yoga is experienced in that mind which has ceased to identify itself with its vacillating waves of perception. When this happens, then the Seer is revealed resting in its own essential nature, and one realizes the true Self.”

In some ways you could say I lost my soulmate and found my “soulmat.”

Yoga was my ticket to wellness after many months of dealing with my husband’s progressive illness and eventual death. It helped me to stop, to breathe, and to be in the moment.

During the past two years since leaving my full-time job, I’ve grown to love going to my weekly yoga classes. Instead of resisting, I am more open to change. Yoga has shown me how to slow down and find greater balance. I have developed a sense of gratitude for all that I can do. If I wanted to take on yoga teacher training in Bali, I know that I have learnt the skills to be able to do it.

I’m even starting to take the goodness of yoga off the mat and bring yogic philosophy into my overall lifestyle. (My friend W says I’ve become very “zen.”)

Last fall, I decided to take a big leap. I went to an open house at Lourdes Institute of Wholistic Studies and signed up for their 200 Hour Yoga Training Program.

Welcome to Anatomy + Physiology.

I’m proud to say that I just finished my first 20 hours of anatomy and physiology. I learned a whole lot from my amazing instructor N and her skeleton companion Raja. It was much better than any high school or college biology class.

Perhaps I am a more eager student during my life after 50.

Ooh, ooh, ooh, there’s a ton to understand about the body’s muscles, bones, joints and connective tissue and how it all works together. There’s sanskrit language to grasp from asanas (poses) and bandhas (respiratory locks for proper energy flow) to ujjaye pranayama (breathing exercises), mudras (hand gestures), mantras (words, sounds or prayers to focus and change the mind), and more.

7 Tips For A Healthy Lifestyle

While I clearly am on the first step of my journey, I left my first class with a greater conscious awareness of my body. Here are helpful tips I learned for a healthy lifestyle:

? You only get one body (at least in this life time) so be good to it. The late, great B.K.S. Iyengar yogi said, “The body is my temple.” Are you treating your body like it is your temple?

? Good posture is important as we age. Go ahead, put those shoulders up and back and widen your diaphragm. My instructor N says “you want to expand throughout your life.”

? Joy is found in the hips. If you’re lacking joy in your life then maybe you should try some hip opening yoga poses. Want to know which muscles to stretch? Here goes: psoas, gluteus maximus, gluteus medius, hamstrings. (Go Judi! Go Judi! Go Judi!) There’s more but stretching these four will get you headed on the path to a joyful life.

? Resistance causes stress. BTW, that stress hormone called cortisol, it’s stored in the mid-waist area. Got that? Yep, the more stress the greater your middle-aged middle. What’s ever bothering you today, let it go!

? Your digestive system includes some long tubes. The small intestine is about 22 feet and the large intestine is about 5 feet. (Wow-o-wow, that’s a long way down.) Seated or standing yoga twists can help move food through the digestive tract.

? Your body is made up of a majority of fluid. Stay hydrated and drink water.

? Be kind to your knees. Raja’s knee cap fell off quite a few times during each class.

Class is over for today.


Guest PostBio: Judy Freedman blogs at aboomerslifeafter50.com, where she writes about reinventing her mind, body and spirit, during her second act.

Retired from a 30 year corporate communications career, in addition to her blogging, Judy is studying to be a yoga instructor. You can follow her on Twitter HERE.

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