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There I was, minding my own business, cooking pepperoni pasta for nineteen people on New Year’s Day, when I suddenly morphed into Albert Brooks trying to anchor the weekend news in Broadcast News. I was suddenly drenched with flop sweat and wished I were on a TV set where my minions could powder my face and blow dry my armpits. It was hot flash central. Oh, thank you, perimenopause, you cruel mistress. By the time I served dinner I was wearing nothing but my underwear and a limp smile.

Like a person who carries an EPI pen because she’s deathly allergic to bees, I now carry Poise Roll-On Cooling Gel because I’m deathly allergic to public humiliation and a wet bra. I became familiar with the product the first time Poise asked me to run a giveaway on my site. I don’t do very many giveaways, but I loved Poise brand’s take on The 2nd Talk. We’re all familiar with the 1st Talk, which happens when girls hit puberty, but I loved the idea that The 2nd Talk should happen when we hit menopause.

Since getting the Roll-On Cooling Gel, I’ve only had to use it twice, once inexplicably while watching Daniel Craig in Skyfall (well, perhaps that was explicable) and a second time while cleaning the kitty litter box (which I later explained to my husband is the reason he should be solely responsible for that job). I did as instructed, squeezing the tube as I rolled the gel on my neck and chest. (The roller is cool metal.) Texture’s an issue for me, so I was happy the gel wasn’t sticky. Applying it to my body made me feel the way I feel when I pop a mint in my mouth: instantly fresh.

So far I’ve only had to contend with hot flashes. But here’s a smorgasbord of other menopausal symptoms to freak you out:

While Poise won’t address some of these changes… (wait, which changes are those? I can’t seem to remember…oh yes, short-term memory loss!), it does have products for several of them: Body Cooling Towelettes that offer instant cooling and refreshment. Personal Lubricant designed to enhance your intimate experience (which is code for SEX). Panty Fresheners that have a fresh and clean scent that lasts up to four hours (I’m certain I’ll never need that), and Feminine Wash to provide daily freshness with a unique formulation that is PH balanced for your intimate area (aka your lady garden).

Click for a free sample and a coupon for Poise products.

To enter the sweepstakes for a $100 Visa gift card, please leave a comment answering this question (insert Alex Trebek voice): “How are you approaching life’s changes confidently?”


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This giveaway is open to US Residents age 18 or older. Winners will be selected via random draw, and will be notified by e-mail. You have 120 hours to get back to me, otherwise a new winner will be selected. The Official Rules are available here. This sweepstakes runs from 1/22/13 to 2/19/13. Be sure to visit the Poise brand page on BlogHer.com, where you can read other bloggers’ reviews and find more chances to win!

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  1. Donna
    Donna 22 January, 2013, 10:29

    Uh, confidently? Wine helps. It also seems to trigger the hot flashes, but they don’t bother me as much.

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  2. Lisa Brown
    Lisa Brown 22 January, 2013, 10:54

    I am approaching life’s changes with some concern, but I am eating right, getting a bit of exercise, really trying to take care of myself, to make the change easier.
    jslbrown_03 at yahoo dot com

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  3. Lisa Brown
    Lisa Brown 22 January, 2013, 10:55

    2nd entry tweet – https://twitter.com/LuLu_Brown24/status/293793951729717248
    jslbrown_03 at yahoo dot com

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  4. Mami2jcn
    Mami2jcn 22 January, 2013, 10:58

    I’m taking extra vitamins and herbal supplements.

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  5. Mami2jcn
    Mami2jcn 22 January, 2013, 11:06


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  6. Elena
    Elena 22 January, 2013, 11:42

    I try to get enough sleep, take vitamins and evening primrose oil

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  7. Carol D
    Carol D 22 January, 2013, 12:15

    I am a slave to hormone therapy. Specifically, Vivelle patches. I really could not live without them. When I do not use them my hot flashes are so bad that I throw up. So, needless to say, I would rather use them than not.

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  8. Anne Louise Bannon
    Anne Louise Bannon 22 January, 2013, 12:30

    After night sweats kept waking my up several times a night, every night for three weeks, I reluctantly went with the HRT. Can’t wait to get off the pills. As for how I am going forward confidently? Since when have I ever done anything with confidence? I am moving forward with my usual trademark neuroticism and insanity. And a really good sweater because I keep getting chills when the temp goes below 75 degrees.

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  9. Yvonne Condes
    Yvonne Condes 22 January, 2013, 14:52

    I don’t know if I AM approaching life’s changes confidently. It’s not like anyone has anything good to say about it. I’m already sweaty and absent minded. Who will want to be my friend when i have arm pit stains and can’t remember who I am?
    I’m afraid of it and I admire all of you ladies who are approaching it with confidence.

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  10. Walker Thornton
    Walker Thornton 22 January, 2013, 15:14


    How do I deal with life’s changes? Humor, tolerance, a little bitching thrown in and learning to relax and accept!

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  11. Walker Thornton
    Walker Thornton 22 January, 2013, 15:16

    oops. Above tweet left out hashtag. https://twitter.com/WalkerThornton/status/293859499113062400

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  12. Allison Downes
    Allison Downes 22 January, 2013, 16:13

    Take care of my body, eating better, getting enough sleep, exercising

    Thanks for the awesome giveaway!


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  13. Kelly D
    Kelly D 22 January, 2013, 19:07

    I am approaching life’s changes confidently by staying in shape, eating well and staying open-minded.

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  14. steph
    steph 22 January, 2013, 19:08

    focusing on the positive!

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  15. Shannon
    Shannon 22 January, 2013, 19:17

    I just had my third child three weeks ago, I’m confident I can do this because millions of women have done it before me!

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  16. Jennifer Marie
    Jennifer Marie 22 January, 2013, 19:52

    I am approaching life’s changes confidently by trying to eat healthy and take care of my body.

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  17. Stefanie Gladden ( Ann Lyfe )
    Stefanie Gladden ( Ann Lyfe ) 22 January, 2013, 20:08

    I’m trying to be more confident with lifes changes, and trying to work out more, be healthier

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  18. Tara
    Tara 22 January, 2013, 20:48

    Eat well and exercise!

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  19. Tammy S
    Tammy S 22 January, 2013, 21:04

    I am trying to approaching life’s changes confidently by getting in better shape, eating healthy, vitamins, and getting more rest.

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  20. stephanie
    stephanie 23 January, 2013, 04:43

    i stay positive! 🙂

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  21. courtney b
    courtney b 23 January, 2013, 05:10

    im getting rid of the negative people in my life

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  22. Amy Orvin
    Amy Orvin 23 January, 2013, 06:40

    I am approaching life’s changes with faith and believing that things will be ok.

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  23. Amy Orvin
    Amy Orvin 23 January, 2013, 06:41


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  24. Megan
    Megan 23 January, 2013, 08:08

    I like to get things out of the way early, so I left that change in the dust several years ago(except for that pesky extra weight). I’m acting as the canary in the coal mine for the friends that are following behind me.


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  25. Cindy
    Cindy 23 January, 2013, 08:35

    I’m confident that life changes will occur despite my kicking and screaming!

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  26. rachel
    rachel 23 January, 2013, 08:42

    Exercising and eating right is big…and approaching it with grace!

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  27. mirela
    mirela 23 January, 2013, 08:44

    This is so interesting! I’ve had a few hot flashes so far, not pretty 🙁

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  28. amy pugmire
    amy pugmire 23 January, 2013, 09:28

    I take a daily vitamin and exercise regularly. I try to stay positive and embrace life!

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  29. Ellen B
    Ellen B 23 January, 2013, 09:42

    I’m trying but it’s really hard – I had no idea I was going to have all these changes

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  30. Tiffany Winner
    Tiffany Winner 23 January, 2013, 09:51

    same as always, just rolling with the punches, life is always changing!


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  31. Debra C
    Debra C 23 January, 2013, 10:19

    I did not do anything different, basically ignored it! Glad it is over.

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  32. Amy in Atlanta
    Amy in Atlanta 23 January, 2013, 10:20

    I don’t have night sweats or PMS but I do have hot flashes. I could be cold to the touch but internally I’m on fire. Yeah, good times.

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  33. Debra C
    Debra C 23 January, 2013, 10:21

    I did not do anything different, basically ignored it. Glad it is over!

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  34. Erika
    Erika 23 January, 2013, 10:43

    I just hope to take it a day at a time.
    chambanachik at gmail dot com

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  35. Sophia
    Sophia 23 January, 2013, 13:05

    I’ll figure it out when it happens. My friend calls them power surges instead of hot flashes.

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  36. tina m
    tina m 23 January, 2013, 13:34

    eat better and exercise everyday

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  37. Erin
    Erin 23 January, 2013, 13:55

    I remember that I’m hardly alone in this aging process, and then decide to try and age as gracefully as possible, rather than resent it.

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  38. Erin
    Erin 23 January, 2013, 13:56

    I remember that I’m not the only one who is aging, and then decide that I will try to do this gracefully, rather than resent it.

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  39. LAMusing
    LAMusing 23 January, 2013, 15:19

    I try to look at the bright side – I appreciate the fact I don;t have a monthly cycle to deal with (which became harder as I got older) and my fibroids are finally gone!

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  40. Norma
    Norma 23 January, 2013, 15:22

    I’m long past my change of life and wish I’d had a roll on cooling gel back then!

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  41. Amanda Hoffman
    Amanda Hoffman 23 January, 2013, 16:49

    drinking more water and eating better

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  42. Louis
    Louis 24 January, 2013, 01:45

    focus on the positive and see each day as an adventure
    Thank you for hosting this giveaway

    pumuckler {at} gmail {dot} com

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  43. Louis
    Louis 24 January, 2013, 01:45

    I tweeted your giveaway

    pumuckler {at} gmail {dot} com

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  44. Amanda
    Amanda 24 January, 2013, 05:09

    I’ve given up on wearing underwear 🙂

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  45. JOE WEBB
    JOE WEBB 24 January, 2013, 08:38

    for husbands, menopause makes us miss the good ol days of pms..some times the fact that im still breathing can start the day off badly for my wife..LOVE you dear..

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  46. nickie
    nickie 24 January, 2013, 12:01

    I have been taking more vitamins


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  47. atlantagalknows
    atlantagalknows 25 January, 2013, 05:41

    My biggest life change right now is having my first child (so no menopause just yet!)! I’m finding confidence in preparing for that by taking time to research it and work through my feelings/fears beforehand, so that when the time comes, I’ll (hopefully) be more ready for it!

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  48. Kerry
    Kerry 25 January, 2013, 10:37

    I’m just taking it one day at a time – and hoping that my symptoms aren’t as bad as my moms were!

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  49. Maureen
    Maureen 25 January, 2013, 10:46

    I have not had an easy time of it. I am still going through it. I have contacted my doctor regarding different issues and each time she says that what I am experiencing seems to be a symptom of perimenopause with menopause coming on. Some days are good and others really not so good. I just have to take it as it comes. I am not taking medication due to a health issue (unrelated) so I have to do things naturally. I am taking it as it comes.

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    MARISSIA WATKINS 25 January, 2013, 19:12

    I approach life challenges confidently with daily prayer and thanks

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  51. Amy Tong
    Amy Tong 25 January, 2013, 21:36

    Well, it’s a phrase we women have to go through. Mind as well be prepared and learn them all in advance!

    I am approaching life’s changes confidently by thinking positively. It might be easier said than done. But I’m trying my best.

    Amy [at] utry [dot] it

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  52. Amy Tong
    Amy Tong 25 January, 2013, 21:37


    Amy [at] utry [dot] it

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  53. Sonya Morris
    Sonya Morris 26 January, 2013, 19:26

    I am trying to have a good attitude about it and create some laughs along the way. I am already giving my husband a hard time about it approaching since I am 40 and pregnant! Thank goodness for companies like Poise taking an interest in this and creating products for us to get through it!

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  54. Mary
    Mary 26 January, 2013, 21:25

    Exercise and healthy foods

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  55. Debbie B
    Debbie B 26 January, 2013, 22:04

    Haven ‘t gotten to menopause yet – will take it one day at a time. Thanks for all the info about products that help out!

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  56. Mendy Dinsmore
    Mendy Dinsmore 27 January, 2013, 19:14

    I’m hoping I’m done with the hot flashes, but I sure wish this product was out when I was having them. I would had the ac turned down, ceiling fan on and a stand up fan on me. Hot flashes are miserable.

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  57. mell
    mell 27 January, 2013, 19:18

    I keep my weight in check, exercise regularly and watch the types of foods I put into my body.

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  58. Jessie C.
    Jessie C. 27 January, 2013, 20:38

    I keep up with daily exercises and have balanced meals to prepare for life’s changes.

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  59. Anita
    Anita 29 January, 2013, 17:39

    I bought some evening primrose oil but have yet to try it. They sit there with the rest of my vitamins that I forget to take.

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  60. sy
    sy 30 January, 2013, 23:45

    Talking to my mom gives me confidence, because she’s been through changes and always have good advice. Reading stories on poise would help too.
    songyueyu at gmail

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  61. sy
    sy 30 January, 2013, 23:46

    tweet: https://twitter.com/syytta/status/296886991491047424
    songyueyu at gmail

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  62. cw
    cw 31 January, 2013, 17:01

    I am taking vitamins (especially vitamin D) to help with mood changes and I go for acupuncture every once in a while to help with night sweats.

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  63. Susan Smith
    Susan Smith 2 February, 2013, 18:08

    I am approaching life’s changes with a postive attitude and I am eating right, getting some exercise, taking vitamins and trying to get enough sleep to make the change easier.

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  64. Bethany A
    Bethany A 3 February, 2013, 20:43

    I’m not there yet, but I’m already starting to think about it since my mom had early menopause. Nice to see that there will be products to use!

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  65. Wild Orchid
    Wild Orchid 6 February, 2013, 06:26

    I am accepting that change is a way of life, good or bad. We must embrace change and not try and fight it. That is the attitude I am trying to take anyway!

    Thanks for the chance to win!

    wildorchid985 @ gmail dot com

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  66. Wild Orchid
    Wild Orchid 6 February, 2013, 06:28


    wildorchid985 @ gmail dot com

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  67. Kyra
    Kyra 6 February, 2013, 21:12

    I approach life’s changes the same way I approach a strange dog. If it’s friendly or benign, I’ll pet it or walk by. If it attacks, I’ll defend with my walking stick.

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  68. sherri crawford
    sherri crawford 7 February, 2013, 08:15

    i just try to keep a good attitude and stay happy

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  69. One Frugal Girl
    One Frugal Girl 8 February, 2013, 13:49

    Find humor and enjoyment in the little things in life and keep smiling.
    onefrugalgirl AT gmail DOT com

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  70. One Frugal Girl
    One Frugal Girl 8 February, 2013, 13:49

    Tweet: https://twitter.com/OneFrugalGirl/status/299998013319958529
    onefrugalgirl AT gmail DOT com

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  71. Rebecca Graham
    Rebecca Graham 9 February, 2013, 01:22

    I approach it by enjoying life. I made it through menopause without a single hot flash.

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  72. Kelly Massman
    Kelly Massman 12 February, 2013, 17:02

    I have to admit that I’m not really approaching it with confidence, but it sounds like these products would be a great help! Thanks so much for sharing and for a chance to win!!!! kmassman gmail

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  73. LAMusing
    LAMusing 13 February, 2013, 19:26

    I’m through it now, but keeping a sense of humor helps!

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  74. latanya
    latanya 14 February, 2013, 07:42

    eating healthier, taking vitamins, and taking it one day at a time.

    dlatany at gmail dot com

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  75. Jessica F
    Jessica F 15 February, 2013, 19:05

    I’ve been taking better care of myself both physically and mentally – I’ve been working out and telling myself to take a break every once in a while!

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  76. Olivia Rubin
    Olivia Rubin 15 February, 2013, 20:00

    I accept that it is going to happen and know that I can take steps today to prepare…vitamins, exercise

    Oliviatheservicedog at hotmail dot com

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  77. nannypanpan
    nannypanpan 16 February, 2013, 12:27

    i am keeping a positive attitude in that once i get through it no more monthly visitor

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  78. Betty C
    Betty C 16 February, 2013, 13:07

    I’ve already passed one big milestone, menopause, and because I was prepared in advance it wasn’t as bad as I expected. I firmly believe in finding information in advance whenever possible and that allows me to be confident to face change.

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  79. Eugenie
    Eugenie 17 February, 2013, 16:10

    To feel confident I try to keep my skin healthy looking by using lots of moisturizer and sunscreen.

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  80. Julie
    Julie 17 February, 2013, 18:07

    Having clear goals and keeping a positive attitude has helped me

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  81. Donna
    Donna 17 February, 2013, 18:07

    Dealing with changes is definitely hard but having a good support network is helpful

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  82. Linda
    Linda 17 February, 2013, 19:12

    I make sure that I take baby steps towards the changes that I need to make

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  83. Prasert
    Prasert 18 February, 2013, 06:02

    Focusing on the positive

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  84. ewhatley
    ewhatley 18 February, 2013, 07:29

    I’ve already had the worst of it but still have hot flashes so I might try the cooling gel.

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  85. Emily N.
    Emily N. 18 February, 2013, 11:50

    I’m eating healthy organic foods and exercising.

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  86. Julie
    Julie 18 February, 2013, 13:19

    quite honestly, I am 55 years old and still having my period on a regular basis…I take one day a time…and try to keep my attitude positive.

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  87. anash
    anash 19 February, 2013, 04:02

    i like to take it easy, not get stressed over things! hopefully when i approach menopause i will have it easy and if not these products seem like they would be helpful

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  88. anash
    anash 19 February, 2013, 04:33

    Thanks for the chance to win!
    email: anashct1 [at] yahoo [dot] com

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  89. Erica Best
    Erica Best 19 February, 2013, 11:42

    I had hot flashes all my life

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  90. Jammie
    Jammie 19 February, 2013, 12:18

    one day at a time i have been trying to get healthier to help with the process sweepmorey at gmail dot com

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  91. Tabathia B
    Tabathia B 19 February, 2013, 14:23

    I moisturize my skin daily, drink lots of water and walk several times a week

    tbarrettno1 at gmail dot com

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  92. Tabathia B
    Tabathia B 19 February, 2013, 14:28

    tbarrettno1 at gmail dot com

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  93. Jean
    Jean 19 February, 2013, 19:12

    Being positive about it

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  94. Miah
    Miah 19 February, 2013, 19:12

    Having friends going through them with you

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  95. sandra
    sandra 9 April, 2013, 06:38

    just trying to stay healthy

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  96. Madeline
    Madeline 9 April, 2013, 17:31

    I try to stay consistent with exercise, and I dress in layers for those days when I’m hotter than usual!

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  97. steph
    steph 12 April, 2013, 11:30

    extra sleep and positive affirmations

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  98. Georgia
    Georgia 24 April, 2013, 03:58

    The best I know is one moment at a time and patience.

    gmissycat at yahoo dot com

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  99. Georgia
    Georgia 24 April, 2013, 03:59

    Tweeted here


    gmissycat at yahoo dot com

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  100. Maria Cantu
    Maria Cantu 24 April, 2013, 14:54

    I’m doing one day at a time and learning all I can about menopause.

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  101. Cori Westphal
    Cori Westphal 26 April, 2013, 10:03

    I’m trying to stay in the best shape and best health that I can, so I’m ready for any upcoming changes!

    coriwestphal at msn dot com

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  102. LAMusing
    LAMusing 29 April, 2013, 18:26

    Due to medication I went through it earlier than expected. Keeping a sense of humor really helps. Roll with it 🙂

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