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I Want to be Raquel Welch When I Grow up. Does That Make me a Hypocrite?

Photo Credit: Reuters

Photo Credit: Reuters

I’ve decided to grow up to look like Raquel Welch.

Never mind that Raquel Welch at 73 looks better than I did at 25. By the time I’m 73 I’ll have caught up.

I think we must assume la Welch has had “work” done, which calls into question whether she’s aging gracefully or not?

When I was a wee bairn with no gray nose hairs (sigh) I was extremely judgmental about women who augmented their natural beauty in any way.

Needless to say as the years have advanced I’m singing a different tune. I walk the infinitesimal line between accepting my body as it is and fighting like a tiger against gravity.

When I turned 45 I  had a browlift and credit the procedure with making me feel sassy, sexy and youthful (even if I did look like an Avatar who’d been in an alley brawl for about a month).

I’ve taken advantage of various dermatological shenanigans. (Ultherapy, after which I didn’t really notice a difference and now IPL to get rid of brown spots, which seems to be working quite well).

As you may or may not know I’ve started a project called “Love Your Body Now: Healing Body Image Issues Through Fine Art Nudes.” The title succinctly describes the purpose of our mission. So I guess my question is this … is it hypocritical to fight the clock, not just through diet and exercise, but also availing myself of available procedures while at the same time trying to help women love themselves as they are right now?

I can’t entirely reconcile it myself so I’d love your thoughts and suggestions.

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  1. Angie
    Angie 26 February, 2014, 16:12

    This is why I love your blog, it’s like a little mirror reflecting back all my thoughts!
    At 45, I’ve decided that it’s impossible to reconcile my desire to be a “natural beauty” with “that wrinkle/brown spot/zit/belly fat has GOT to go NOW”. So whatever we want/need/can afford to do, I say go for it. Yet I have told no one, I mean no one, about that little injection I get in my forehead twice a year. It’s so embarrassing! All I hear is “oh I would never get something so artificial and chemical put into my body, but I certainly don’t judge anyone who does” Oh really now?
    If I could figure a way to convince everyone I know that I have a disease that requires me to lock myself at home for a month, I’d get a browlift in a heartbeat! So maybe that makes me hypocritical, if so, oh well. I get to the gym and watch what I eat and drink, but that’s not enough to keep age at bay. It’s coming for me no matter how hard I fight. So yes, I can’t let inevitability drag down my self worth and enjoyment of life, but I’m sure as hell not going to throw in the towel. I think aging gracefully may just be a balance between wise acceptance and a fight to the death. Let’s all just do what we need to do, and try to support each other in the process.

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  2. Serena Belva
    Serena Belva 5 March, 2014, 11:50

    I used to judge heavily as well. Now I respect those people who own up to it without lying about it. As far as I’m concerned, it’s your body and you have a right to be happy with it. I could definitely see myself getting work done in my lifetime.

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  3. Jenn
    Jenn 11 April, 2014, 10:29

    About 15 years ago, I meet La Raquel during a summer theatre production. On stage, she was, and still is, completely stunning. She knows exactly what works for her and how to work it. That confidence in her looks and herself was the major tool in her arsenal. More so than whatever nips and tucks that she had done at that point and more than her incredible makeup application skills (from bust to crown).

    However, to this day, every time I see her picture, what I remember more than her knock-out figure, was her diva personality: her crazy, ridiculous demands on the crew, her rudeness, and her constant quest for copious amounts of attention. Seriously, it was unreal and overpowered any thought of beauty.

    I think it is a very personal choice. At the moment, I’m going with more of a natural track than not, we’ll see if that changes in the next few years, but I have never forgotten that the way that I act can wipe out the way that I look in an instant.

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    • Shannon
      Shannon Author 11 April, 2014, 10:35

      Hi Jenn — love this story and this comment. It’s so true that physical beauty only takes you so far and I’ve met plenty of physically attractive people I wasn’t attracted to.

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