71 Dresses In 71 Days: Week 10
I’m like a man, parched with thirst crawling over the endless sand dunes of the Mojave Desert. Except I’m doing it in 71 dresses.
My No Shopping Project is coming to an end. A few months ago I decided to take a real look at my shopping addiction by pulling every single dress I own out of my drawers and closet to count how many I actually have.
Can you guess how many?
I suspect the title of this post gives it away. I’ve worn a dress-a-day ever since and haven’t spent more than 18$ on myself (meaning wardrobe, jewelry, hair products, shoes, underwear, bras or mechanisms that vibrate) in, as of today, 71 days.
Now, full disclosure, I did get a little shopping thrill by purchasing loft beds and desks for my daughters and outdoor patio furniture for our house. Having said that, these were items that were long on our TO DO list. My girls are getting older and needed more study room and we needed somewhere nice to sit outside.
But shopping for myself has been a no.
I’ve been successful because of this blog project. Each time I want to navigate over to my favorite clothing site I stop myself short because looking IS buying. If I’m at the mall buying a gift for a birthday party or a graduation, I don’t go into any of my trigger stores. I try not even to look at the display windows.
Recent research on Addiction revealed that the brain becomes conditioned to respond to certain stimuli that actually makes it near impossible for an addict not to relapse. This is why, when drug addicts go to rehab, they are stripped of anything familiar that can trigger the addictive reaction; these familiar items include all people, places and things connected to the addiction.
It’s an attempt to recondition the brain to new stimuli and short-circuit the addiction synapses. That sounded really smart, right? I didn’t even look that up on google. You can check my cred on the internet.
(But I am really smart, in case you were wondering).
So, in taking myself away from temptation I’ve managed to change my behavior. At least in the last 70 days.
Once this project is over my goal is to start keeping a journal of all purchases. For myself, my daughters, our home and gifts for others. I’ve tried to do this in the past and failed. I’m hoping this newfound sobriety will be motivation enough to keep it up.
Here are my last batch of dresses.
Ladies — it is done.
I should have posted 72 dresses as my mom gave me an Anthropologie gift card for Mother’s Day and I purchased Dress #60 with it. But when I looked in my drawers I realized I labelled a bathing suit cover-up a dress. It’s not really a dress as it can’t be worn solo without showing the lady bits which have a tendency to run rogue. I’ve given my lady bits a lecture and told them to stop chasing cars like an untrained puppy. Sigh. What can you do?
Finally, I want to say Thank You for taking this journey with me. In 71 days I spent 18$ on myself. A slight slip-up. But it was good to know that I could turn the spending faucet off. I may begin with a shoe and skirt No Shopping project very soon.
One of the best things this project did for me, besides staunching the cash flow, was to show me what I have in my closet and how it looks on me. I could instantly see what works and what doesn’t and it made me excited about the wardrobe I already have.
In the following gallery I will indicate in the caption which 11 dresses I donated to Out Of The Closet which benefits AIDS research. xo S